Most of the parents complain that the child does not listen
and does what is not to be done.
Why this
disobedience? Is what parents want to know?
Answer is right in front of you; all you need to do is look
at it.
Most of us adopt parenting style our parents used, what our
friends share and today as more aware parents what we read. But the truth is to
make your child understand and listen to what you have say is to listen to him
and understand the child’s view.
Child’s view? Now what’s that?
His world, perspective, his thoughts and his sphere of
thinking …..In short his World
Yes, once you enter his world you will know what he wants
and how to talk to him to make him know your world.
Most of us are aware about these things….all we need to do
is improvise
So let’s start talking to our children so that they listen….
Always remember the trick is to keep things as simple as you can and be brief
there is no need to ramble and talk too much to confuse self and the child. As far
as possible use single sentences and easy words so that children can remember and
follow what you are trying to say.
It’s very important to observe how kids communicate between
themselves and you will automatically see the loopholes and where you are
missing things. It’s important to connect with the child so that they
understand what you want to say. Best way to connect is make eye contact with
the child, address the child directly and create an open path by the way of
your body language.
How do we create open communication? What is open communication? Parents are often
very perplexed about this.
Well open communication means giving your child authority to
speak their mind and not be held for what they say. That does not mean they can
say anything….this implies giving them opportunity to learn responsible communication.
To make this effective you need to create emotional equilibrium
so that you and your child are on the same space. Let the child know it’s ok to
be upset and disturbed but what is important is how you say it. You need to be
a patient listener let your child complete his thoughts because if you become
adult at this point you are creating that barrier and then you need to deal
with the tantrum because child will ultimately say what he wants to, you need
to decide how….
Little bit of listening, little bit of care and lots of
understanding will help you understand your child better and communicate with
them…..well there is no written rules of parenting it’s ok to be wrong and accept
it…. that teaches the child to be real because ultimately he needs to learn to
be real in this world.
So start listening
and happy parenting…..
Till next time cheers :)
